True Story from my Constitutional Law Professor:
(on a discussion on homosexuality and the law in the past)
Professor: I guess, legally, a question pervasive in the discourse is, "can one be a celibate homosexual?"
(Student raises hand slowly)
Student: Sadly....yes.
I've heard a lot of people identify as bisexual, defining it as attraction to anyone, not just two genders. Do you think those people are misusing "bisexual"? Because it really does seem like a matter of personal interpretation/semantics.
Anonymous
I mean, I’m more for the idea that “generally, people should be able to label their sexuality/gender as they see fit, to the point where they don’t encroach on claiming some sort of oppression that they don’t have.”
example: cis people who resist being labelled as “cis” because “they don’t identify like that.”
Or, even better: straight cis men claiming to be lesbians.
To be honest, I think that a lot of people who use the phrase “bisexual” don’t really think about the implications of a gender binary. It’s not really within mainstream consciousness. I’ve had people tell me to “shut up, you’re bi, get over it.” I’m not. I just don’t consider gender.
But that’s not something that the majority of people think about.
So…yeah. Basically, let people label themselves and if they find a better fitting label for their sexuality, more props to them.
also, apparently, I cannot be serious because I am so OFFENSIVE with my “my pussy is made of gold” post…that had a dude attacking me for being a stuck up bitch.
…Internet famous?
Lulz.
Edit: also, apparently, they think “queer” is making up a “new identity.”
What. the. fuck.
Man.
…There is a lot of kim possible porn on the internetz.
…Wonder how many girls discovered their queerness after watching Kim Possible?
…Not that I’m speaking from personal experiences or anything…
I've had an urge lately to be involved in a threesome, and a few months back I propositioned my boyfriend (gay) and he was not down at all. I dropped it because why the fuck wouldn't I? But I honestly CANNOT stop wanting this. There's something I've always refused to do with him in bed (but he asks occasionally) that I would be willing to do if he partook in a threesome with me. Should I suggest this trade to him, or is it just completely out of line?
Anonymous
I feel like if someone is not absolutely comfortable with something, especially if it involves a third, you shouldn’t do it. A lot of people just cannot emotionally handle threesomes/moresomes. It’s not a question necessarily of sexual comfortability; it’s emotional and mental comfort.
And if it’s something you really, really want and can’t have…then you two might be sexually incompatible.
I’m also really leery of the idea of “sexual trades,” because, personally, I feel like pressuring and using sex to get what you want is…well…not healthy. It’s one thing to be like, “well if this is your thing, I have an open mind; it might be fun,” versus, “DO THIS THING YOU ARE UNCOMFORTABLE WITH AND I WILL DO THAT THING YOU WANT BUT I REALLY DON’T WANT TO.”
You should be having sex because 1) it’s fun and 2) interesting. Trying new things should be for the sake of THAT thing, and your partner’s pleasure…it shouldn’t be because you want something from your partner and are trying to wear him down.
Also, it’s sort of unfair to hold up the whole sexual carrot as an incentive to draw him out of his comfort zone. What if he really wants it, to the point where he’s willing to do something he really WILL NOT ENJOY, just so you’ll do this for him? Do you want to put your partner through that? Do you want to put your partner through that decision? And do you want your partner to feel like he’s essentially being “rewarded” for doing something that he sexually does not feel comfortable doing?
I’m saying it’s murky territories. And unfair.
And also, maybe rethink whether or not you’re really getting what you want out of your relationship. Sometimes it seems right…but if there’s something that you really want and you’re not getting…maybe you two should see other people.
Femme Girl Problems: The Clubbing Paradox
Go to a straight club: Almost get into a fistfight with the drunken straight frat boy who refuses to believe that you're queer...and then offers you money to make out with some random chick you happen to be standing next to.
Go to a gay club: Manage to get sneak-attack-grinded-humped from behind by the one straight guy in the club. Lesbian street cred image ruined for the rest of the night because now everyone thinks you're straight.
Question: How do lesbians hit on each other at gay bars?
Answer: we give each other our tumblr user names, instead of phone numbers.
OH MY GOD I FEEL SO GAY.
edit: oh wait does this mean said other queer person will see this? whoopsies. side note: never drunk tumblr.
Hi I'm a closeted queer girl and just managed to get myself into an arguement with my dad about gay marriage. It was awful because I know no matter what I say or do he will NEVER believe it is ok. He's very religious, as is most of the rest of my family, and I am just so afraid to come out. When he were discussing it, my 7 year old sister told me I should just marry a boy without knowing what we were discussing, just that I should be straight. I am so lost and just don't know what to do help me?
Anonymous
To be honest, I would wait until your sister was a little older (old enough to know how to keep secrets and to really understand things…so…maybe 10? 12?) and then discuss things with her.
As far as your dad is concerned, maybe ask him why he’s so against gay marriage, and what in your religion makes it so.
There really is no good way to tell your parents that you’re queer if you’re in that oppressive of a household.
To be honest, I would try and find support groups outside of your family. And when you’re finally independent, I would tell them. They’re your parents. There will be initial shock and a need for distance…but most of the time, it DOES get better. There are some battles where the most important strategy involves WHEN to fight.
Proof that straight white cis people do not understand sarcasm
(and also cannot resist derailing/lecturing people. Even queer people. On queer issues. And queer stereotyping).
lol at some straight white bitch lecturing me about using gay stereotypes in a post about NC banning gay marriage and then derailing the ENTIRE conversation.
ohhhh, I’m so sorry I was being hilarious when i’m pointing out the ironic stupidity of NC banning gay marriage and the fact that YES OK A LOT OF GAY PEOPLE ARE EVENT PLANNERS.
Jesus Christ I hate straight white cis people.
