“THEN YOU SHOULD HAVE DIED!” roared Black. “DIED RATHER THAN BETRAY YOUR FRIENDS, AS WE WOULD HAVE DONE FOR YOU!”
“Actually,” said Harry, pocketing his e-cigarette, “Peter’s pursuit of rational self-interest is of a higher moral order than your determination to kill yourself on another person’s behalf, Sirius. Self-sacrifice is never the answer; it ends only in pain and death.”
Sirius blanched. “But Voldemort — we could have stopped Voldemort.”
“It’s a free market,” Harry said, shrugging.
Lupin turned into a wolf.
“Control yourself,” Harry said. “Good lord, man, you’re a being of pure will and drive. Exercise it.”
Lupin turned back into a man with flashing, clear eyes and a jaw that could level a mid-sized office building.
“In the marketplace of ideas,” Harry went on, “Voldemort has the same right to disseminate his philosophy as you do. If his philosophy is sound, it will flourish. If his philosophy is unsound, you have nothing to fear.”
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When is it ok for white allies of POC to call out cultural appropriation? My college newspaper just published a picture of a girl dressed as a Dia de los Muertos zombie for a Halloween event and it really rubbed me the wrong way, and my first inclination was to write a letter to the editor or something to call out that girl and the fact that the picture was published. But since I am not Latin@, would that be stepping on the Hispanic community's toes? Or would it be helpful? I just don't know :/
Why not ask an actual Latin@ blogger? I mean I hate to say it, but I’m not an expert on Dia de Los Muertos. Sure, there are some FIlipino similarities but quite frankly I’m not of the race in question here. So excuse me for saying so, but it looks like you’re not really asking for the right reasons—you’re asking for an easy sense of approval. That’s not something I am gonna give you, especially not for an instance of cultural appropriation that doesn’t involve my race.
I DO GET THIS QUESTION A LOT.
So in A GENERALIZED CONTEXT:
First ask yourself: Why are you calling this out? What would be the benefit? Is it just to show that you, yourself think it’s wrong, or do you think there’s some detrimental public effect here? On one hand, it’s just a picture—so what? On the other hand, you’re at a university, where there is surely some sort of Latin@ student organization. You’re not. For all you know, the girl in the picture was Latin@ in which case…well, it’s definitely not your place.
Then ask yourself: would you be setting yourself up as an authority if you did call them out?
That’s the rub—you aren’t an authority, you wouldn’t be doing much other than “OH MY GOD THE NEWSPAPER PUBLISHED THIS ONE PICTURE AND THAT’S WRONG.” Publishing the newspaper picture isn’t necessarily the biggest fault here (although I admit that it does tangentially glorify some sort of cultural appropriation, ASSUMING that the girl in the picture wasn’t Latin@). That being said, who really is at fault? That would be the girl in the picture (again, assuming she’s not Latin@). I find that things like that work better on an individual level. Talk to the person who fucked up, don’t make it a big public stink. I mean what’s the point of writing the letter anyway? What would the letter say? Would it have any impact at all, except maybe to set up the Latin@ community for ridicule and even MORE cultural appropriation? Think about what you, a white person, would be doing by publicly calling out cultural appropriation in this context—the Latin@ community would then be approached along the lines of “well it’s a white person who’s bothered, you guys aren’t.” It would cause a shit storm.
Rather I would say it’s not your place, and quite frankly it’s very rare that such a public forum is the place for a white ally to talk in any way. There is a big difference between seeing yourself as a leader in a movement and supporting the viewpoints of others. THAT is your role. You support viewpoints—writing a letter to an editor in this context seems to me more motivated by a white guilt effort to separate yourself from other (racist) white people than doing any good for raising awareness. Again, I am sure there are Latin@ students on campus (I find it hard to believe that there’s no student groups of the sort) that may or may not choose to speak out against this picture, and you don’t have any information other than “some girl wore this for Halloween.”
TLDR: think about why you’re doing this and be fucking honest. Then think about what it will actually do.
In addition to the Azo, don't eat the chocolate and try to avoid sugar for now. Bacteria in your urethra will feed off it.
so actually I’ve already talked to my mother who is a pediatrician. She advised against Azo considering its blood side effects, and the fact that I already have aleve.
As for the sugar and whether or not the bacteria in my urethra will feed off it, that would depend on the nature of my situation which at the moment is somewhat nebulous. I don’t have a fullblown UTI; quite frankly, whether or not the cause is bacterial is still up for debate (hence my mother’s reluctance to get hold of some antibiotics. A yeast infection on top of this shit would suck balls)
one time I was talking with a Dom on Fetlife and we wound up meeting at a munch but I struggle with social anxiety and I'd warned him I can't really make eye contact and that I have a little tic where I play with my hair. He kept barking at me to stop doing it and was offended when I would get a text and reply, he'd go "tell them I'm stuffing you in the back of a trunk" "oh my god you can stop I'm not kidnapping you". it was the worst. he then tried to "apologize" and say it's a turn on for him
it’s not the same at all as your story, but JFC ppl in the community can be odd. and it’s not like I was on a date with that guy, I went with a couple of work friends.
Yeah I feel like all Doms should go to dom school or something so they can learn the difference between “this is proper kink etiquette” and “this is rape-y.”
Like I remember I was with some dude who I just met and I ended up sitting in his lap and at one point he started like kissing me without asking me and then started feeling my boobs and shit and like I was like “I don’t really feel comfortable with this right now” (and especially on my neck, which is a trigger spot for me), and he said “yes well pushing boundaries is my thing it’s what I do.”
Which…well…I’ve known you for 15 minutes and didn’t consent to that shit, didn’t even let you know you could touch or kiss me there, and mentioned that I DIDN’T WANT YOU TO TOUCH MY NECK.
Fucking dumb-ass doms.
Everybody knows about Subs being trained and shit like how we need to properly be obedient and all but honestly Doms need more training than we ever do.
…you expect to come out of it and immediately get a nice $60,000 associate position right off the bat after basically three years of working your ass off to the tune of an average of $100,000 in student loans.
Because it’s not going to happen.
Here’s the deal:
I live in the DC/Baltimore area. As a result, I’m competing against law school grads from the ONLY TWO law schools in Maryland (both of which are in Baltimore) AND all the DC law schools. Ironically, there are more law schools in DC than there are in the entirety of Maryland.
Note that there is a governmental hiring freeze that just lifted
Note also that what that means is that the people who would have been hired as associates in governmental work for their background and training and focus during law school ended up taking fellowships and clerkships and other temporary jobs because that’s the best alternative
Others ended up as paralegals and legal assistants…which is sort of like a doctor taking a nurse’s position.
Which means that I am competing against not only every other law student who took the Maryland, DC, or VA bar this July…but I’m also competing against basically every other eligible law school grad from the past three years.
Note also that the jobs that are available are mostly paralegal positions because while the hiring freeze is over, nobody wants to fork out the cash to pay somebody an associate’s salary—they’d rather get recent law school grads, desperate to pay off student loans, on hourly timesheets, doing associate level work for less.
Interesting sidenote: I recently interviewed for a paralegal position. The next person I saw waiting was also a law school person (I recognized her). I also bumped into another one of my classmates—who was working at the time. At Target.
So, newsflash to every single person mouthing off about how our generation is just expecting way too much and is just too uppity about our educations:
WE AREN’T THE ONES THAT FUCKED THIS SHIT UP, YOU DID. WE’RE JUST THE ONES EXPECTED TO DEAL WITH THE CONSEQUENCES.
This one time I was texting a ropeplay top who out of nowhere started sending me some “compliments” that were actually really racially charged asian-fetish heavy statements in a really bad segue into attempted race play and when I was like “dude back the fuck off and stop it, I didn’t consent to that and it’s a trigger for me” he bungled an apology and actually accused me of kinkshaming him and basically that why I no longer actively seek out white male cis doms anymore because holy fuck the amount of privilege and rape culture it takes to turn “I do not consent” into “kinkshaming” is terrifying as hell.
honestly I think the reason why white people adamantly disclaim racism by saying “I don’t see race” is because they guiltily realize that if they acknowledge seeing race, they will in the next sentence probably awkwardly acknowledge believing in a stereotype so the only way to truly avoid racism for them is to proclaim that race isn’t something they notice.
This attitude is obviously problematic. Allow me some metaphor here:
I want you to be aware of other cars on the road when you’re driving. I don’t want you to assume that those other cars will see you no matter what.
One of these things is basic human decency and promotes safety and well-being. The other is just silly and probably based on the fact that you’ve never been in an accident before.
There is a difference between awareness and prejudice based on privilege.
Yo white Kink community I realize y’all are generally socially progressive and identify as people who fight against the fucking white cis male patriarchy and shit but like just because you have less rigid ideals re: sex doesn’t actually mean you can say something like “I cook the plaintains in lard and every Latino man within 50 miles comes running”
…especially when you are in line right next to a Latino man.
…I’m just saying, y’all can be just as gross no matter how liberated your sexual mores are.
White people who talk shit about POCs making everything about race need to sit down, read some constitutional law, some criminal law, and some fucking family law, and realize that it’s not that we’re making everything about race, it’s that the fucking white man made everything about race, handed us some vague equal rights amendments, and shrugged at us going, “well I dunno, why don’t yOU fix it? Wait, what’s the problem again?”
The US government’s attitude towards racism is worse than garbled, high as fuck apple tech support at 3 AM.
Why do you people have to make everything about race???
Long answer:White Europeans decided to colonize the rest of the world. They enslaved, massacred, segregated, displaced, tortured, disenfranchised, and raped other racial groups. They stole land, resources, and art. They put other races in zoos and death camps. They destroyed written and pictorial history. They suppressed the religions of other races. They dehumanized us. They refused to teach the history of these atrocities in their schools. They refused to acknowledge the achievements of other races. They used the theory of their racial superiority as their excuse. All social institutions reflect this history. All affected racial groups are still feeling the aftereffects of this. So it tends to come up a lot.
Shit happened to Ferguson is happening in Hong Kong right now!
Students were just protesting peacefully for genuine democracy around Admiralty and Central, yet the police forced used pepper spray, tear gas and violence to disperse the crowd. According to the protesters, the police even raided a first aid booth with pepper spray.
For some people poverty is to an extent the result of life choices that are in their control. What is so bad about people who simply have a lot of money(I have a lot of money which I've earned pretty early in my life so far and I'm hardly a bad person) this is simply a matter of deep seeded jealousy towards the wealthy.
on the difference between humanitarianism and casual commodifying racism
So my sister and I were having a discussion about eco tourism and the general exodus of a certain type of white, upper middle class high schoolers/college students into non-white third world countries to “provide aid.”
And we were discussing how the idea of giving aid isn’t necessarily racist, and quite frankly in many of these countries HELP IS DESPERATELY NEEDED.
And that one SHOULDN’T discourage people from helping out if they can.
I mean it’s counterintuitive, really.
On the other hand.
THE REASON YOU GO OVER MATTERS.
here’s the deal, and here’s how I explained it to my sister:
It’s not that I’m automatically going to assume that just because you’re white and you’re going over to “teach english” or “build a bridge” or something in a third world country, you’re racist and a shitty person. Who knows; maybe that bridge was actually really fucking necessary.
Like…fuck no. Quite frankly I know plenty of people who have done a really great job doing just that. The First world SHOULD help out the Third World.
if you describe your trip in terms of what YOUR VISIT TAUGHT YOU, WHAT YOUR VISIT DID FOR YOU, WHAT YOU LEARNED…It’s probably because your heart isn’t in the right place.
You should be going over mainly to help other people, not for some self-righteous and glorified admissions essay topic.
And probably it would help if you didn’t actually use those third world POCs as photo props either. Like it or not, there is a difference between kids who want to pose for a picture and it’s meaningful, and that one kid you picked up against their will so you could pose with a facebook caption like “SO HEARTWARMING.” Or something.
Either way, don’t go over for some mystical and deep and enlightening experience for yourself. Go over because you think you’re capable of helping, you think you’d do a good job, and you think helping these people out is important and something that should be done.
Make sure the organization you’re going over with is doing more help than harm. Do your research. Make sure you understand local customs and at least a little of the local language. Get all your shots in order. Try not to be a burden on local resources. And at the end of your visit, if you’ve actually achieved something positive, GOOD FOR YOU. Excellent, actually. More people should try for a positive impact on those less fortunate than themselves.
“Harry then did something that was both very brave and very stupid.”—Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone (page 176) or as I like to call it: A summary of all seven Harry Potter books in one sentence. (via scribbledwriting)